The list below is of 15 things that are holding you back from your happiness. We can and should live a stress free lives and be loved and be able to fulfil all of our dreams, read the list below and try to liberate yourself from all the things that are stopping you from achieving your goals ( This was originally written by Luminita D. Saviuc and it is beautiful )
1. Give up your need to always be right
Some of us always have to be right, it’s in our nature, whenever we get the chance to argue a point that we know for sure is true, we do it, even at the cost of starting a fight or making things unpleasant, it’s just not worth it don’t you think? From now on whenever you feel the urge to jump into a fight just to be right, ask yourself this simple question:” Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind? ” Wayne Dyer Let me stop you right there…you rather be kind! is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control
Stop trying to control everything! doesn’t matter if its a party with friends, co-workers or any other person you meet during your day, just let things be as they are. You will be surprised how much better you feel. ” By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go, but when you try and try the world is beyond winning ” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame
Seriously stop blaming others for what you have or don’t have in your life, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop throwing your powers away and start taking responsibility for your own life
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
There are so many people in this world that just give up or don’t even try to begin with because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset. Please don’t believe everything your mind is telling you, especially the bad things. You are better than that and you can do whatever you put your mind too, the trick is just believe in yourself ” The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive ” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
There is no such thing as impossible, everything is possible, it’s all a matter of belief. Stop limiting your belief about what you can or can’t do. about what is possible or impossible, from now on you are not going to let your limiting beliefs keep you from achieving what you want in your life, BE, Spread your wings and fly! ” A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind ” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining
Never underestimate the power of positive thinking people! Stop your constant need to complain about everything. People, situations, events that make you mad or sad, no one or nothing can make you unhappy, the only thing letting you get sad and miserable is YOU. Don’t allow it, it’s not the situation that triggers those feeling in you but how you choose to look at it
7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticise things, events or people that are different from you. News flash – we are all different yet we are all the same. We all want the same things like being happy, love and to be loved and we all just want to be understood
8. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying to be someone you’re not. this is critical! Stop trying to make other people like you, the moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you truly take off all your masks. that’s the moment you will find people will be drawn to you and like you for who you really are, effortlessly
9. Give up your resistance to change
Unlike what most people feel, change is good. change makes you move from point A to point B. The change will help you make improvements to your life and the lives of those around you. Embrace change – don’t resist it. ” Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls ” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels
Stop labeling things. People or events that you don’t understand and think are weird or different. Try opening your mind to new things. Minds only work when open ” The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about ” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears
There is no such thing as fear. Period – it doesn’t exist, you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place ” The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself ” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses
Drop all the excuses – like right now. You no longer need them. A lot of the times in our lives we limit ourselves because it’s convenient to just let it go and don’t even try, and when we do. we make excuses. Instead of working on improving ourselves and our lives we get stuck in this stupid circle of excuses that leads us to no where. 99.9% of the times the excuses are not even real when you think about it
13. Give up the past
I know, easier said than done. but this is also a critical point to take. The past looks so much better than the present right? and the future is just scary! But don’t forget that the present is all you got. The past you try to hold on to so much was ignored by you when it was the present, so stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. Have a clear vision for the future. prepare yourself, but always be present in the now. Remember, life is a journey, not a destination
14. Give up attachment
This is a concept that for some is hard to grasp. But its not impossible, the moment you detach yourself from all things, and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another. attachment comes from a place of fear and love is pure, kind and selfless. the two can never coexist.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations
So many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. they live life according to what other expect of them. teachers, parents, partners, and friends, they all say and think they know what is best for you but don’t ignore this inner voice that calling that tells you what you really want to do.Stop trying to please everyone and stop living up to other people’s expectations. don’t lose control over your own life, don’t forget what makes you happy, what you want, what you need. Don’t forget about yourself. You have one life – this one right now, own it, LIVE IT
